Just LISTEN!!!

Finley is having a really hard time listening lately. I'm about to lose it. The kid just does not listen. I will tell her to do something, will tell her not to do something, try to get her attention while she is playing or watching a show. DOES NOT LISTEN.

When she doesn't want to do something I have asked her to do she just sits and whines and cries until I get so upset I just give in. I'm sick of it, and I really feel anger build up in my chest, I just want to scream. When I do raise my voice she will listen, but why should I have to yell at her?

I hate yelling, it's mean. I don't like to be yelled at myself so why would I like to yell at her. It kills me.

Today we went down to the grocery store and she was super good the whole time. It was very busy and she kept close and listened to me throughout the store. Then as soon as we got to the register she started taking candy off the shelf and asking for it, when I said no she started to get very whiny and would sit on the floor and pout. Ezra was trying to climb out of the cart into my arms wanting down so it started to get a bit hectic. I even got a glare from the lady behind me. It really wasn't that bad.
So thanks for the unnecessary glare lady.
Your dumb.

As we were leaving, Finley started to throw a major fit because I wouldn't let her rent a movie.
What the hell?
Seriously? She was good the whole time, and now the meltdown begins
Screaming, hitting Ezra in the car, freaking out like no other.
All because she couldn't rent a movie.
She continued to act this way the whole way home.

"Finley, you are acting horrible. You are going straight to bed when we get home."
"WAHHH WAHHH" Blubbering mess, I tell you. Blubbering.
As soon as we pulled up to the house, I told her to go down to her room. Her response
"I won't be hoorable never again."

Ugh...I die. Seriously?

The whining has continued all day and I feel like I want to cry. I really do not know what to do. I keep thinking I'm the horrible one. Maybe I'm just a bad mom and let her get away with too much or don't discipline the right way. My patience is wearing thin and I feel like failure.
I just want her to listen to me.